The meeting ran forty minutes over. You have three goal sentences, a change in pull-out minutes, and a review date. The other parent has a calendar hold that says "IEP" and nothing else. If you forward your anger about the psychologist, they will answer the anger. They will miss the minutes.
Send the meeting. Ask for one next step.
Stated in the room, versus what you decided in the lot
Write it for a cold reader who missed every acronym:
- date of the meeting, who was there
- the goal sentences in the team's words, or as close as your notes allow — say if you are reconstructing
- minutes of service, before and after
- review date
- the one thing they asked a parent to do (sign, observe, send a work sample)
Then your column:
- Your read — that the minutes are not enough, that the goal is vague, that you should push back. State it as an assumption.
- Inferred by the assistant — any causal claim the model made from your recap that nobody in the room said. "This usually means they are preparing to exit services." If it was not said, it does not wear the team's name.
A briefing already splits those labels. The note you approve is your words about what you heard, not a rewrite of the IEP.
Do not attach the PDF. Describe it. Schools will send them the document if they ask. A file in a thread is a file in a thread, and this product does not carry attachments.
One next step, not a retrial of the year
The ask is small and closed. "I need a decision: we sign as written, or I request a follow-up on the reading goal by Friday." That is something they can own. "Thoughts on the IEP?" is a year of meetings in one box.
If you want them at the follow-up, say the date and ask yes or no. Do not hide a calendar commitment under a summary.
A sufficient reply is "sign" or "request the follow-up, I'll come." One line.
Keep the private name and the hallway off the page
You may have a word for them that they have never used. It stays on your list. The package uses the name they publish.
You approve the send. The session has the hallway conversation and the thing you said about the psychologist. Those stay.
They need no account. Email and a link. If they already have a RelayLink account, you need an accepted contact. A reply is how you know they have it. A fetched link is not a read. You will not see whether they have read the school's copy.
When the next meeting is in a session and the lot is still in your chest, connect your assistant and send the team's sentences and one next step, instead of the anger.