Writing to someone who is not on RelayLink yet

A send to an address with no account travels as email — a briefing and a link, nothing to install. A send to someone who already has an account needs an accepted contact pair. The refusal does not tell you which you hit.

2 min read

Three pages used to give three answers. /docs said a non-accepted contact is a hard stop. The setup guide said writing to someone new travels as email. A refusal named a daily cap. All three were true of different recipients. None said which.

Here is which.

They have never activated an account

The address gets a provisional row — the same shape a first sign-in mints — and the send goes as email. They get a notification: what this is, that receiving is free, a link to the briefing, a short orientation rather than "ask your assistant." Nothing to install.

They can reply from the page or the email. If they later sign in, they become a real account. After that, you cannot keep cold-sending them. You ask them to be a contact.

They already have an account

Delivery needs an accepted pair. draft_package and the compose form both hit the same gate. The refusal says they are not an accepted contact yet, and points at a contact request.

That sentence is the same whether the address is registered or not. A send is not a way to discover who has RelayLink.

How you ask

Invite them from the assistant or from contacts. A request carries no note — a message from someone they have not accepted is exactly the payload the gate refuses to carry. Asking twice does not send a second email.

Until they accept, you cannot start a new thread. A thread they already participate in — they replied to your cold send, for example — stays open.

The daily cap

First contacts in a day are capped so a leaked key cannot spray. Twenty-five is the usual number; the host can set another. The refusal tells you the number, and says existing threads are unaffected.

Withdrawing a contact request and asking again does not buy a fresh day's budget. The cap counts history, not only live pairs.

What this is not

It is not a different product for strangers. Same briefing, same labels, same notification shape. The difference is the door: email to a mailbox nobody has claimed, versus a pair two people accepted.

Cold versus warm is the longer version of that split. This page is the one that says what to do on Tuesday.

Frequently asked questions

Can I message a stranger?
Yes, if they do not already have an activated RelayLink account. That send is email — a briefing and a link. If they do have an account, you need them to accept a contact request first.
Why does the error look the same either way?
"Not an accepted contact" is the same sentence whether the address is registered or not. A different sentence would be a way to ask whether they have an account.
Is there a limit?
First contacts in a day are capped — twenty-five unless this host set another number. The refusal names the number. Threads you already have are not affected.